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Dating as a single mom

I'm 27 years old and I have a daughter who I love with all my heart. I have her full time since her father lives in another state. Sometimes I would like to go out and meet new people, but life always gets on the way. I haven't meet anyone I like and being single for three years already. When I do meet someone that I like I have no idea how to tell them that I'm a single mom. Do I introduce myself and say "Hi my name is .. and I have a 4 year old" or should I just don't say anything at all until the time feels right?. I have no idea how to do it!
Advise please ..
Also, do I look for guys without kids with kids ..not sure what's the best for me and my daughter

  1. [ deleted account ]1 year ago

    Have you tried something like Tinder where you could put it right there that you're a mom? That way there are no surprises!

  2. KikilovesTris1 year ago

    I've been a single mom since my son was born. The biggest thing for me was to let the person know immediately that I am a single parent. I would introduce myself and then when it got to the part of me telling more about myself, I would say "I am a single parent with a 4 year old." I also use dating sites and I list that on there. If they aren't interested in children, then I don't bother continuing the conversations because that's a big part of dating a single parent. They will eventually be around my son and if they aren't interested in children, then there is no reason why we should continue.

  3. Erica Lynne Bridley1 year ago

    It's tricky, but I tell the guy upfront so I can see their reaction. It doesn't matter for me if they have kids or not. I find that guys who do have experience with children are more understanding. Like you can't just get up and go, their times and schedules that have to be in place. Then their is the when do you introduce them. Later or sooner because you like the guy, but your child may not which is a red flag. I will say it is quite different dating while being a Mom. You just gotta take the first step.

  4. camillenanjala5 months ago

    It could have been better if you look for men with kids. That way it will be a two way traffic. However it all depends with what you like. You might like one with no a kid. So let that not be a priority. Focus on one who is ready to take your child the way she is. So do not tell them exactly the first day. Wait till when the time is ready. Perhaps when you have had more than dates. When you feel he loves you. After you have authenticated his love for you. Rather than telling anyone about your daughter on the first date. Maybe there were just there for their own beneficial reasons. So that way you can weigh their decisions. Do not be too hard on them too. After telling them that you have children. It is up to them to decide whether they are comfortable with it or not. If they are not. Well, let them be. I believe you will find someone who loves you just the way you are.

  5. callisy4 months ago

    Being a single parent is not an easy role. From sleep issues to tantrums to potty training, you have to tackle every arduous aspect of parenting on your own. Through this role, you learn just how much you are capable of and give your child the ultimate representation of a role model. One thing parenting doesn’t make easy though, it dating. You read books on how to give birth and how to breastfeed, but learning how to date when you have a child seems much more complicated. There aren't always hard and fast rules regarding when to start dating. The circumstances surrounding your divorce or even the state of your marriage pre-divorce may play a part in whether a woman is emotionally ready to date. Whether your last relationship was a marriage or a short-lived fling, there’s never a right or wrong time to start dating. As a mom, your heart is already full of love for the tiny person you created. If you’re not sure you have room in your heart (or life) for another person, then you don’t need to add one. You’ll know when you’re ready to start dating again.

  6. noreenwawuda1 month ago

    Being a single mom means that you have been through at least three life-altering experiences. You became a parent. Which will blow your mind, heart and life in incredible ways. And you’ve found yourself single after a serious longterm relationship. You’ve faced the reason-defying triumphs that are required of single motherhood. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice. It was a big deal, and that changed you. You survived that, and not only are you better for it you’re sexier for it. Confidence, a full heart, and life experience all equals being a richer, fuller person. People are attracted to these single-mom qualities in a real, meaningful way. Especially the people you want to attract, aka awesome men. When you feel comfortable with your body. Let go of past hang-ups. And are less critical of your partner. That’s when stuff gets good. Plus, there’s no pressure for baby making.


  7. Diana Parker3 weeks ago

    Hey there! It's tricky, but I tell the guy up front so I can see their reaction. It doesn't matter to me if they have kids or not. I find that guys who do have experience with children are more understanding. Like you can't just get up and go, their times and schedules that have to be in place. Then there is the when do you introduce them. Later or sooner because you like the guy, but your child may not which is a red flag. I will say it is quite a different dating while being a Mom. You just gotta take the first step.

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