That sounds so horrible but I find that it's so much easier to get the kids to bed at which point I finally have me time. Tell me I am not the worst wife ever.
Nope lol, I’m a railroad wife and find that the time spent apart is actually a very good thing for me, for him, and our daughter. Every time he walks in the door, we are all reminded of how much we love each other!
Hey lovely lady! No, I don't think that makes you a horrible wife. Being happy when he's not around or away. Whatevs! It just means that you are a strong personality. And like all individuals you also need some solitary moments. Solitude is so essential for a healthy being. It's natural for you to feel fine with your ownself. In fact, try to have more of that me-time. It will do you. your partner, and everyone else involved so much good.. Love xx
Hey Janellelynn! Haha, your post made me laugh, no you're the not worst wife ever. It's good if you can also stay happy with your own self because it shows how strong you are. and me time is something everyone wants. So enjoy your me time and don't waste it on thinking you're a bad wife.Stay blessed!
Girl we all need time away from our loving yet a bit annoying partners. I find it easier to deal with the kids when my husband is at work. They just act different when it is just us at the house. He seems to get so aggravated by what I consider kids being kids!
Although it may be shocking to some people, I find it quite in order for you and your daughter to become happy when he is not around. You see, it all depends on the type of a husband we are dealing with. I know some men who will never appreciate anything done by their women. They will even find fault in something like powering the Television. Some of them are so domineering that you will notice happiness in the home immediately they step out. I am a teacher and I have interacted with kids who confide in me that they would rather stay in school until late. They will not go home on particular days because that is when the dad spends the day at home. In the same breath, I also know of some men who would rather spend time away with their friends than go home early before their wives retire to bed. Most of them say that they would rather avoid the noise and the quarrels than go home early. Also, the older the marriage gets the more comfortable one feels when he has his or her own space. However, I don’t think you are here given that you have mentioned young children in your post. But my dear, I think you could have spruced up this discussion if you told us what he does that makes you feel happy when he is away. Is he domineering or does he demand more than you can manage? If we knew what makes you not happy, we would try to help you.
You like that feeling of empowerment. When you are flying solo. It’s great that you enjoy life without him when he is away for work. It’s not a negative thing. I would also compare this to going on holiday. In that what can seem idyllic and do-able for a few weeks or even a few months. Is not necessarily how you’d like to live long term. I don’t mean you should trudge on. But, as you say, your husband plays a vital part in your children’s lives. He’s their dad. He contributes to their emotional wellbeing and to the family bank balance. He’s the rudder than enables you to take the controls so efficiently. I think one of the things you are also suffering from is “re-entry”. That transition from flying solo to then being in dual control. It is tricky. I bet your husband finds it hard too. Coming home to that. Talk to him. There may be small changes you can both make to make it easier for each other.
It’s almost as if you think there’s something wrong with being OK while your partner’s away. But it’s a sign of maturity. That you can enjoy life without him. Imagine if you fell apart when he went away. Just because you cope without him there for periods of time. Doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with your relationship or that he is surplus to requirements. It’s OK for him not to be your “everything” – really, who is? You like that feeling of empowerment when you are flying solo. It’s great that you enjoy life without him when he is away for work. It’s not a negative thing. I would also compare this to going on holiday. In that what can seem idyllic and do-able for a few weeks or even a few months. Is not necessarily how you’d like to live long term. I don’t mean you should trudge on. But, as you say, your husband plays a vital part in your children’s lives. He’s their dad. He contributes to their emotional wellbeing and to the family bank balance. He’s the rudder than enables you to take the controls so efficiently.