My friend

Hey there everyone! My friend's looking to decide between IVF or surrogacy. She's having troubles conceiving naturally. If you could help her decide that'd be great. But alongside that, she's also worried what her family might think. I tell her not to worry about it too much since it's her life. But she still worries. Any solid points to help convince her family or just my friend to help her move on? TIA.

  1. DiannaViktor1 year ago

    Hi there. Leslie! So, sorry for your friend's situation. I've also been through a situation like this. Well, there is no point that she has been delayed for an IVF or surrogacy. Last year my cousin sister had surrogacy and she was at the age of 39. This year I'm also having an IVF at a center in Ukraine. So, yeah! I've been trying for like 6 years...Now, I'm 36 years old. So, yes! I wish her all the best! I think there are really good outcomes of these assisted procedures. I think people around her should understand that it's really worth trying...I mean yeah! It's really worth trying, she should go via an IVF first. Anyway! Stay blessed. xx

  2. Alana901 year ago

    Hey! I guess in between these two or three days I interacted with individuals having a quite similar case as you defined.
    I just can't get this world anymore. I mean why they just can't accept the fact that being infertile means the women cant conceive naturally anymore.
    And she wants that happiness anyhow. I would probably say there must not be any confusion regarding such technologies. we are living in the 21st century and this must be so common.
    IVF and surrogacy both stand successfully in treating infertility. and you have to make a selection on either you are fine for going with the number of cycles that IVF offers you to conceive or you want anyone to carry your baby.
    Both own equal or you say the crucial importance. Don't think either by going with surrogacy means that child won't genetically belongs to you. This is possible for sure.
    Ask her to review all the comments and make her own decision. That would be much better for her.
    She must be well satisfied before going to any of the options.
    How about her medical history? Had she been all her fertility test?

  3. Natty11 year ago

    That's very sad. I'm genuinely understanding her pain. Infertility brings a lot of problems. It's a problem that creates many other problems. It even brings relationship problems. I've been through the same. This decision is so difficult to make. Just let your friend know she has support. If the family isn't supporting her, maybe she needs to give it more time. After all, babies are born when families are ready. But if you're husband is on board, then go for it. IVF is comparatively better if she has a healthy body. It's better to experience the pregnancy. But if she has any medical conditions, then surrogacy is recommended. In surrogacy, there is a much lesser risk of MC. I had surrogacy for this reason too.

  4. TinaK1 year ago

    Hi there, how are you? Hope you are fine. Sorry to hear about your friends' story. Being not able to conceive naturally is very hard and it takes a lot of courage to face this time. Its great to know that now she is looking for the solutions. These both treatments are kind of hope for infertile couples and producing good results for years. IVF is a bit time consuming as it consists of five cycles. Success rates also differ from ages to ages in this treatment. On the other hand, surrogacy is a bit ahead from IVF. As the third person is involved in this process so success is guaranteed. This treatment is the last hope for infertile couples. I will suggest your friend to first go for IVF and if things didn't work well then go for Surrogacy. She needs your support. Tell her that things are going to be great and in her favor very soon. Good Luck.

  5. Jane Drake1 year ago

    It is up to her totally. What does she want? Does she wanna conceive her self? If yes then IVF. If she cannot carry the baby. Surrogacy should be the choice. It is a clear choice hun.

  6. Robin James1 year ago

    Hey Leslie. I hope you and your friend are well. I'd suggest you ask her to relax. It's fine to worry before trying something new. Surrogacy seems to be the more popular option due to the fact that it's safer than IVF. Both are quite expensive, so people opt for the one with a higher success rate. Good luck to your friend!

  7. emily2941 year ago

    Hey, Dear ask your friend don’t lose hope. As there is always a way out from your problems. Life is the name of challenges. Just face the challenges with such a strong power that everyone appreciates you. If she can’t conceive naturally. Then don’t worry. There are many other ways too. Today, many ladies are facing the problem of infertility.
    Dear, I myself is consulting a clinic in Ukraine for my infertility issue. And might be I will go for surrogacy. Your friend should also consult some good clinic or the same one as of mine in Ukraine. She should discuss her condition with doctors who will give her best suggestions. My advise is that whatever decision she is gonna take, do proper research on it. And have faith on God. Good luck!

  8. rebecca121 year ago

    I believe that in order to make a choice between the two, you need your doctor's assistance. This is so because the doctor knows more about your health. Your friend can't conceive naturally, sorry about that. But if she hadn't had any problem she could have, right? IVF is a great option for her but then again, if her doctor recommends it to her. I had 3 MCs after which my body had been very weak. Which is why I couldn't opt for IVF because I knew it would also result in a miscarriage. So, I opt for surrogacy then. It was a wonderful experience. My son is going to be a year old soon. On the other hand, IVF has an advantage that it feels like a natural pregnancy so your friend can keep it confidential from her family. It is a painful process, but the result is worth the pain. I hope she makes a wise decision. All the best to her!

  9. serra1 year ago

    Hey. I am so sorry for your friend. I know it would be so hurtful. But she has to do this for her. I had 3 miscarriages which left me infertile. I always wanted to be a mother but failed. I wanted a big family but no luck. So at the end of my friends' suggestions, I went for surrogacy. I went to a clinic in Europe. They provided me with every facility. They provided me with a healthy surrogate too. I have a daughter now.

  10. Hannah.David1 year ago

    Hey, Leslie, I hope you and your friend are doing great. The information you have provided is very inadequate for me to really determine which procedure according to me she should opt for. However, I can share the limited information I know about regarding both these procedures. If she opts for IVF she should know that there is no guarantee that it will work for the first time. IVF is a process in which even the doctors don't have a much say as sometimes the eggs don't fertilize whereas in some instances the embryo doesn't develop in the uterus. So there exists no guarantee that it will work in the first time might as well work in the 2nd or 3rd attempt. Also, the doctors will only let you opt for this treatment if your uterus lining is functioning. For surrogacy, however, it has a very high success rate. As your embryo will be inserted into the surrogate mother's uterus. This will guarantee that the child is born safely and is healthy. I myself am going through the surrogacy process for it it is really important that she has thoroughly researched on it. Tell her that opting for the right clinic is really important as well. Best of luck to her I hope she is able to soon have her own child. Sending baby dust her way. Feel free to ask more questions.

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