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Miscarriage

Loss of a child is perhaps the greatest pain one can face. I am one of those people that get "too invested" in a pregnancy well before the point of it making sense that I do. I know that it isn't a sure thing that it will turn into a baby, but there is no way I can make that disconnection. I have infertility and 2 years ago, I had an IVF pregnancy fail on mine. I was 4 months into it and I had a miscarriage. It put me in the darkest place I have ever been in my entire life. I was shredded on the inside and had it not been for the support of my peers and loved ones, especially my husband, I think I would've have made it. It's important to surround yourself with people that keep you afloat and help you look for newer avenues. My husband, for example, recently brought surrogacy to my attention and we are now beginning to research it more. I wish you guys find loved ones to look after you and learn to take care of yourself as well. Cheers!

  1. Boone10 months ago

    Hi, yes dear you could still be pregnant just never lose hope. As you are saying signs are so clear that you've mentioned and then that pain etc. It's not necessary to always got positive impact on the tube first time. Some cases are mentioned in which women even got their pregnancy tests positive after 3 months of pregnancy, In most of the cases you know about that but somehow sometimes people miss and they don't pay attention and then suddenly they got good news and became all happy. So yes just try to consult to some specialist again and try to figure out what it is and if you are pregnant which i hope you are than congratulations in advance.

  2. j.stacy10 months ago

    Infertility is really tough to deal with. It's perhaps the toughest thing a woman can deal with. There are a lot of connotations that come with it. From society, from family, from your partner and even from your own self. It's important and special to have partners, especially, that support a person dealing with that. I am glad my husband is one of those people. I remember us, being very excited to start our family when we got married. One thing I wished we did, when we started to try and have a baby, was to get medical checks done, just to be on the safe side of things. I we done that, we wouldve been a bit aware and prepared for the heartbreak and disappointment to come. Initially, we tried to conceive naturally. When we didnt get any luck, after half a year or so of trying, we went to the doctors for a check up, being a bit nervous and fearing the worst. After the results from the tests came back, the doctors told us the news. They said that it would be impossible for me to conceive naturally. Something about the lining of the uterus being too weak to carry a pregnancy full term. They said we would need medical aid to try to conceive but that too didnt seem too promising to them. We took some time to see how much it was important for us to pursue having children. My husband and I decided to go ahead with the treatments offered to us. After the pills prescribed to us failed, our fears began to pile up. We tied hormone therapy afterward, which was not as bad as the pills. They seemed promising and we got a bit of our hopes back. I was able to conceive with them but in both cycles, lost the child two months into the pregnancy. It was a really rough time. We then wanted togo to a different clinic, one that offered IVFs; after getting nothing but failure from our first one. Three painful cycles of IVFs later, all I was getting was failure. Had it not been for a forum post, not too different from this one, we would not be in the situation we are now. The post was by a lady who described her experiences, which were practically the same as ours. She said that she had had a child through some clinic in ukraine. Out of sheer curiousness, we researched the clinic it turned out to be one that specialized in surrogacy. We were skeptical but intrigued, my husband and I. After days of research and talking amongst ourselves, my husband and I decided that it was something we were comfortable with. And so, we went through with it and because of it, our little baby boy was born. I can not describe how happy I am. I know things are tough for you right now, i have been there. I know that there are ways out there that will work for you.best of luck!

  3. christane10 months ago

    Hello ladies?Miscarriage is so devastating! I got pregnant...we were so happy! It would be our 1st baby! At my 10 week appt., they could not find a heartbeat so they did an ultrasound and found a missed miscarriage. We were devastated. I wanted to crawl into a hole and die. I had to have d and c (which they perform on the maternity floor). Heartbreaking! Anyway, my body was messed up and I had to take Provera to get a period.we lost that baby. I was very angry with God and had to do a lot of souls searching. I read the religious book...it helped me get my religion back on track but we were still so sad. I had one more period than used the Monitor again....guess what...pregnant 1st try again! I am now 9 weeks and 2 days. I get my 3RD scan tomorrow. The doc has been great about letting me see the baby to ease my anxiety. So far so good but we are still praying all the time for the baby to grow! It is so hard to go through and only someone who has been there can understand. We rented a fetal doppler this week so it should be here anytime so we can listen to the heartbeat at home. My advice...try and try again...it will work out one day!Good luck.

  4. Mia198410 months ago

    Hi Jannicehi! I am delighted to learn that you have looked for alternatives. Instead of shredding yourself more into pieces by staying miserable. (That's how you put it there. In a very literary manner. Are you a reader?). Since you ask for suggestions. I do not know about the best centres in the world. Because, honestly, I never had to visit one. And God forbid. I ever do. You should do search about Biotex clinic. That might be helpful to you. Stay Happy!

  5. Courtneyk23310 months ago

    Hello there! I have been through a miscarriage. Twice. I know being infertile is hard to take in. It's gonna be okay though. I also had my husband and best friends with me through all of this. My doctor brought surrogacy and adoption into my attention. I though why not. I went to the internet. Searched some good places for surrogacy. Came across Ukraine. I visited there. They had amazing faculty. Doctors with over 20 years of experience. And they don't give up on you until you get the result you're hoping for. It was an amazing experience. We got to choose our own surrogate mother. We were extremely satisfied by the experience. You should totally look into it. Me and my husband are really happy now. I hope you will be too, soon. Take care, and good luck.

  6. christane10 months ago

    So sorry to hear that! this is always awful. It seems there is nothing to heal the loss you feel, but it does get better, Don't be afraid to try again! My first pregnancy I miscarried at 13weeks. A year later I was pregnant again and now I have a beautiful baby boy! 3 year old. I had another MC 10 months ago. And I was very sad, but everything happens as it should. Always. Just don't keep it all in. Talk about it. I found the more I talked about it the better I got. Goodluck to you.

  7. ashley14310 months ago

    hi honey. dont be depressed. i know you are going through a lot. but dont be upset. its not the end. there are still options. you can still be a mother. you can look up for surrogacy. its not that complex as it sounds. its the best option. i hope i was helpfull. dont give up. :)

  8. Boone10 months ago

    Really it is the heaviest pain that someone could bear. It's almost unbearable. I don't know how you faced it. I always started shivering when I thought some is going through this pain. I am really worried about this. Please be calm and keep patience. Don't worry everything will be fine.

  9. jenifercox0610 months ago

    Yes there is no second opinion in that dear. Losing a child is not good. This must be so overwhelmed for you guys. I hope you overcome this soon. I really don't know what to day. I am really sorry for your loss dear. Try again now. I wish you get your happiness soon.

  10. JenniferSpikes10 months ago

    Heyy there. I hope that you're doing good. I'm really sorry for your mc. It's really the worst thing ever. Losing the happiness of having a child is really worst. You must be really strong. You're an example of courage to every woman. In such condition love and support is really an important thing. The family is everything a person needs. It is a blessing in fact. Children are a gift. One should do every possible thing to have it. I'm really glad that your husband supports you. You should be grateful for it. Yes, you should go for surrogacy. It's really a wonderful technique.it gives a chance of children to those who can't. You must go for it. Take care of yourself. Much love!

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