Friend needs advice

Hey there everyone! My friend's looking to decide between IVF or surrogacy. She's having troubles conceiving naturally. If you could help her decide that'd be great. But alongside that, she's also worried what her family might think. I tell her not to worry about it too much since it's her life. But she still worries. Any solid points to help convince her family or just my friend to help her move on? TIA.

  1. sandra king1 year ago

    Hi there, I am sorry to hear about your friend. How is she holding up now? You can help her by finding success stories. It will allow her to convince her family too. I am sure they will get on board when they see positive feedback. I hope her husband is supportive. If yes then most of the problems will be solved.

  2. NIAVAIN1 year ago

    Hey Leslie, Surrogacy is indeed a wise choice for couples who have difficulty in conceiving naturally. You can encourage your friend to watch vlogs of surrogates and IP's who have pursued surrogacy. This would allow her to consider it and how to pursue it. The vlogs entail major information including expenses, stages, and challenges. This would prepare her beforehand. She can try Ivf if she fails to conceive via assisted technique then she can o for a gestational carrier. The child would be genetically hers.

  3. Alana901 year ago

    hey! how are you doing? great to know that she is doing an effort to conceive using assisted reproductive technologies.because some are quite afraid to do so.
    and as far as the confusion of her family is concerned, it's quite normal.
    Each one around excepts you to conceive naturally. But there are often certain circumstances that hurdle in conceiving naturally.
    This is what they have to understand. they equally force women to have children.
    If you really want that then you got to understand the circumstances.
    There is nothing new or confusing in this treatment. so many individuals use this treatment to have a baby.and the selection in between IVF or surrogacy has been an either intended mother or doctors choice.
    IVF is based upon many cycles and they have no assurance about how many cycles it might take to conceive.
    In either way surrogacy is also a long-term procedure.
    but provide assurance that they would be able to be parents at the end of the procedure.

  4. Natty11 year ago

    Your friend shouldn't be concerned about family at this moment. It is her life's most important decision. In fact, she and her husband are the only ones who matter here. Does your friend have any medical conditions? Any identified cause of infertility? If yes, is she on any medication? Once she decides, she needs to get some tests done. Those will identify whether she's eligible for IVF. If not, then there's surrogacy as well. In my opinion, surrogacy is a safer choice. But only if legal formalities are properly carried out. I've had surrogacy too. I went to Europe for it. Just make sure to choose a good clinic. Surrogacy is safer because the SM have healthier bodies for pregnancy. The babies they give birth to are more likely to be healthy pregnancies.

  5. Jane Drake1 year ago

    Well, I think she should go for it. If she will stay back and think about the family nothing will ever fall into place. The family will eventually approve. Tell her to show some videos and stories to her family. Thye might agree to it. It will also improve her knowledge. She will get prepared for the future.

  6. Hannah.David1 year ago

    Leslie, I am glad you made her realize that it's her life, therefore, she can do whatever she wants to do with it. A lot of people might have an option to choose between surrogacy and IVF however, in many cases, such options do not exist. As for IVF, your uterus needs to be properly functioning and the patient should also be producing healthy eggs. This and many other important factors need to be considered when opting for it. As in my case, initially my DH and I had decided to opt for IVF however, it was only afterwards that we were told that IVF will disappoint us. One of the reasons for that was that I suffer from Anorexia and also I had just had another MC. This along with many other major factors led the doctors to tell us that IVF won't work out. Surrogacy, however, is such an option that works out for everyone. Recently, a lot of patients have opted for it and one of the reasons for that is because of it being highly successful. I myself along with my DH decided to go for it after our doctors suggested it to us. However, we ensured that we researched on it properly and were well educated on it. We studied the laws and the rules and whether they were being followed by the clinic whose doctors had suggested surrogacy to us. It was surprising to find out that they were indeed the only clinic abroad that were following proper rules and regulations. The rights of the surrogate, as well as the child, were being recognized. As they were providing the legal documents of the child and were ensuring that the surrogate was safe and healthy. Therefore, this is my story I hope this helps her decide as well. Best of luck and all my prayers are with her.

  7. Marilyn_Graace1 year ago

    Surrogacy is the better option for your friend.This method is helpful and not expensive.Plus its a sure shot.Let me tell you my story.I got married at 25.When I first got pregnant there were many complications.My doctors discovered that I have a heart condition that is not good.This disease is called Mitral Stenosis.Getting pregnant with this disease was very risky.It could take my life.I was devastated.Couldn't smile couldn't think anything.But then my friend told me about surrogacy.So I decided to dig into it.And I found that surrogacy can be the only solution to my problem.I went to a clinic in Ukraine.This clinic is 'BioTexCom'.Amazing clinic with nice people.They satisfied me in every way.God bless them I am mother of a child now.Your friend should also visit this clinic.

  8. TheOptimistic1 year ago

    Great to learn about your concern for your friend in need. Surrogacy and IVF both are doing miracles. They are equally good. It depends on your friend's condition and nature of infertility that will help in deciding that which way to go. The fertility clinics will suggest her that which procedure is better. There is nothing to get scared of what others will say. As long as the couple is happy and they are ready to take up the challenge nothing should bother them.

  9. BellaJones1 year ago

    Hey there Leslie. How are you doing? I hope it all great. I am really sorry to hear about your friend. You seem like a very good friend. You seem to care for her. It really breaks my heart when people have to go through it. IVF and surrogacy are both great choices. I personally had surrogacy. It was a very good experience. I am glad I made that decision. I was very tensed too. THinking what people might say. However, it'll be my child, not theirs. It will make me happy. That was all in my mind. I hope it helps. Good luck. Take care.

  10. serra1 year ago

    Hey, I am so sorry for your friend. I know this might be a hard time for your friend. But she has to be confident with the decision she is going to take. Both processes are beneficial for her. It only depends on the place I mean hospital or clinic she will choose. If she cannot conceive a baby then it might be risky for her to conceive through IVF. IVF is a bit risky and unsuccessful. So I would suggest that she should go for surrogacy. It is so successful that IVF

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