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Friend needs advice

Hey there everyone! My friend's looking to decide between IVF or surrogacy. She's having troubles conceiving naturally. If you could help her decide that'd be great. But alongside that, she's also worried what her family might think. I tell her not to worry about it too much since it's her life. But she still worries. Any solid points to help convince her family or just my friend to help her move on? TIA.

  1. sandra king6 months ago

    Hi there, I am sorry to hear about your friend. How is she holding up now? You can help her by finding success stories. It will allow her to convince her family too. I am sure they will get on board when they see positive feedback. I hope her husband is supportive. If yes then most of the problems will be solved.

  2. NIAVAIN6 months ago

    Hey Leslie, Surrogacy is indeed a wise choice for couples who have difficulty in conceiving naturally. You can encourage your friend to watch vlogs of surrogates and IP's who have pursued surrogacy. This would allow her to consider it and how to pursue it. The vlogs entail major information including expenses, stages, and challenges. This would prepare her beforehand. She can try Ivf if she fails to conceive via assisted technique then she can o for a gestational carrier. The child would be genetically hers.

  3. melissastan6 months ago

    Hello, Leslie. It is great that you are so concerned about your friend. I don't think if I can tell you which option would be suitable for her because I don't know about her situation so well. There are cases where IVF might work. Surrogacy on the other hand always works. But, IVF lets the mother grow her baby in her own womb which a lot of people would prefer. I had my son through surrogacy in Ukraine about a year ago. I didn't go for IVF because I knew it would be useless for me. I never conceived a baby because my uterus wasn't able to do that, let alone carry a baby. If say I had conceived with IVF, there would have been a very good chance of miscarriage. So I made the right decision and went for surrogacy instead. Your friend needs to look at the pros and cons of both processes with her situation. Only then, she will be able to decide whats best for her. Good luck to her. Do tell us what she decides to go for.

  4. Alana906 months ago

    hey! how are you doing? great to know that she is doing an effort to conceive using assisted reproductive technologies.because some are quite afraid to do so.
    and as far as the confusion of her family is concerned, it's quite normal.
    Each one around excepts you to conceive naturally. But there are often certain circumstances that hurdle in conceiving naturally.
    This is what they have to understand. they equally force women to have children.
    If you really want that then you got to understand the circumstances.
    There is nothing new or confusing in this treatment. so many individuals use this treatment to have a baby.and the selection in between IVF or surrogacy has been an either intended mother or doctors choice.
    IVF is based upon many cycles and they have no assurance about how many cycles it might take to conceive.
    In either way surrogacy is also a long-term procedure.
    but provide assurance that they would be able to be parents at the end of the procedure.

  5. Robin James6 months ago

    Hi Leslie. Hope you and your friend are well. Your friend is really lucky to have you. Your concern is true and that matters a lot! As for the problem at hand, I would need more information to advise you. You see IVF works if you can carry the baby on your own but are experiencing difficulties with fertility. Surrogacy is a separate procedure completely. It works almost in every case. It's the safer option of the two. I, myself, will be undergoing the procedure very soon. I personally prefer surrogacy to IVF, as well. For either case, I'd suggest her to look at this clinic in Ukraine, they're professionals in assisted conception. Also, tell her that it really is her life, and it's her decision. There will be external pressure but she shouldn't let anything come in the way of her achieving her dream of having a baby. Good luck to her! Hope it goes well.

  6. Natty16 months ago

    Your friend shouldn't be concerned about family at this moment. It is her life's most important decision. In fact, she and her husband are the only ones who matter here. Does your friend have any medical conditions? Any identified cause of infertility? If yes, is she on any medication? Once she decides, she needs to get some tests done. Those will identify whether she's eligible for IVF. If not, then there's surrogacy as well. In my opinion, surrogacy is a safer choice. But only if legal formalities are properly carried out. I've had surrogacy too. I went to Europe for it. Just make sure to choose a good clinic. Surrogacy is safer because the SM have healthier bodies for pregnancy. The babies they give birth to are more likely to be healthy pregnancies.

  7. Jane Drake6 months ago

    Well, I think she should go for it. If she will stay back and think about the family nothing will ever fall into place. The family will eventually approve. Tell her to show some videos and stories to her family. Thye might agree to it. It will also improve her knowledge. She will get prepared for the future.

  8. Hannah.David6 months ago

    Leslie, I am glad you made her realize that it's her life, therefore, she can do whatever she wants to do with it. A lot of people might have an option to choose between surrogacy and IVF however, in many cases, such options do not exist. As for IVF, your uterus needs to be properly functioning and the patient should also be producing healthy eggs. This and many other important factors need to be considered when opting for it. As in my case, initially my DH and I had decided to opt for IVF however, it was only afterwards that we were told that IVF will disappoint us. One of the reasons for that was that I suffer from Anorexia and also I had just had another MC. This along with many other major factors led the doctors to tell us that IVF won't work out. Surrogacy, however, is such an option that works out for everyone. Recently, a lot of patients have opted for it and one of the reasons for that is because of it being highly successful. I myself along with my DH decided to go for it after our doctors suggested it to us. However, we ensured that we researched on it properly and were well educated on it. We studied the laws and the rules and whether they were being followed by the clinic whose doctors had suggested surrogacy to us. It was surprising to find out that they were indeed the only clinic abroad that were following proper rules and regulations. The rights of the surrogate, as well as the child, were being recognized. As they were providing the legal documents of the child and were ensuring that the surrogate was safe and healthy. Therefore, this is my story I hope this helps her decide as well. Best of luck and all my prayers are with her.

  9. Marilyn_Graace6 months ago

    Hi
    Surrogacy is the better option for your friend.This method is helpful and not expensive.Plus its a sure shot.Let me tell you my story.I got married at 25.When I first got pregnant there were many complications.My doctors discovered that I have a heart condition that is not good.This disease is called Mitral Stenosis.Getting pregnant with this disease was very risky.It could take my life.I was devastated.Couldn't smile couldn't think anything.But then my friend told me about surrogacy.So I decided to dig into it.And I found that surrogacy can be the only solution to my problem.I went to a clinic in Ukraine.This clinic is 'BioTexCom'.Amazing clinic with nice people.They satisfied me in every way.God bless them I am mother of a child now.Your friend should also visit this clinic.

  10. TheOptimistic6 months ago

    Great to learn about your concern for your friend in need. Surrogacy and IVF both are doing miracles. They are equally good. It depends on your friend's condition and nature of infertility that will help in deciding that which way to go. The fertility clinics will suggest her that which procedure is better. There is nothing to get scared of what others will say. As long as the couple is happy and they are ready to take up the challenge nothing should bother them.

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