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Is it possible to stop feeling this awful?

Hello people. I am finding it hard to cope. I lost my baby. I was 28 weeks pregnant. I don't know how it happened. Maybe it was carelessness on my part. Either way, I feel just so awful. It was going to a girl. I had picked out a name. Had started shopping for her. I don't have the strength to try again. What do I do? How do you get past this? Is it possible to stop feeling this awful? This incompetent?

  1. Hom9 months ago

    I am so sorry for your loss :( I can't imagine the pain you're feeling right now. Prayers and hugs to you.

  2. [ deleted account ]9 months ago

    It's ok to be in pain and it's normal to feel like you had something to do with it, but it's very unlikely that anything you did or didn't do had anything to do with it. It can happen to anyone for any number of reasons. It's not your fault, mama. Give yourself time to grieve and try again when you're ready. Hugs.

  3. Mia8518 months ago

    Hi honey. So sorry to hear this. Don't blame yourself. It just wasn't meant to be. I know it probably sounds like hollow words. However, they are true. It is okay to grieve. Let yourself do that. Take care of yourself. Your health should be your primary concern now. Both mental and physical health. Try again when you feel strong enough. Feel free to reach out if you feel like it. Also, talk to your spouse about it. They are probably feeling something similar to what you are feeling. Share your grief with them. That can often make it easier to cope. For both of you. Stay strong.

  4. tinayork8 months ago

    Awww Dear! I am so sorry for the loss you've got. I really know how it feels to have something beautiful so close and then fade away. I just want you to feel strong ATM. Don't be disappointed now! You need it now! There is nothing like your fault in this. You're beautiful in every way! Don't feel like that. I myself have had 2 MCs in my life. I felt like you, but later I realized it was due to my fate. I'm strong now. I also have accepted that I can conceive, not naturally then another way. I have had a HYSTERECTOMY years back after my last MC and now, I can't conceive. But, I didn't give up. I'm having surrogacy next year. I've needed to have. Because I need a complete family. It's all me and my DH need. So, just be strong! Time will pass so fast! Try again...You can also seek other option if you've any issues. I'd really look forward to talking or helping you. Write me back! Stay blessed!

  5. PatriciaWaller8 months ago

    Hello friends, I have been trying to get a baby and everything have failed. Last week I did attend a clinic and guess what? I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. I have griefing throughout the night and day. I don't know what to do. Cancer has grown very big and affected both of my ovaries. The doctor said I cannot give birth. I can't imagine living without a child. It is the worse news I have ever heard. I know everyone is mad at me. I don`t know what I did to bring about this cancer. I am dying very soon. Please, I don`t want to leave husband alone. What can I do?

  6. Katherine248 months ago

    This is so sad to hear about. You can stop feeling awful. It was not your fault. If it was meant to happen, it would have. I went through something like this an year ago. It was saddening. I attended a clinic. They helped me get through the pain, and showed me that there are more ways to have a child. Now I’m trying for another child. I learned that you can’t just sit around in sadness and cry over this, but you can always try again. If you have given up on trying it on your own, you should attend a clinic and ask for their help. You will feel much better. You should try and do something that makes you happy. Take your mind off of this. Distract yourself. If you’re a working woman, then i suggest you take a leave. Do something that brings you joy. Goodluck with everything in life.

  7. Diana1998 8 months ago

    Hello nica524,
    Let me start by saying that I am really sorry because of what happened. I know it is devastating to lose a pregnancy at week 28. However, it has happened, and there is very little that one can do to reverse the situation. I want to encourage you to forge ahead. Life should not come to an end just because you lost a fetus at week 28. You see, I believe that everything happens for some reason. And God has a master plan for everything that happens. Perhaps it is God who decided that the baby should get out because of one reason or another. Also, you should not cry because you had a miscarriage. Let me tell you that the human body is self-regulating and once it notices that something is not right, it takes remedial action. Perhaps your baby was not well-formed or was lacking important genes that would make it difficult for him to survive. So the body had to eject it because it was malformed. You need to recollect yourself and convince yourself that the body rejected the embryo because of a good reason. You can imagine what would happen if the baby was born without limbs or with some deformities. It would make life difficult not just for the baby but you as well. So, it was for a good reason that it was ejected from the uterus. Now I know your concern is whether you will be able to conceive again or not. This need not worry you. Just give yourself 3 months and start TTC.

  8. LindaEskridge7 months ago

    Hi nica! I m sorry for your loss. Losing your baby is the worst feeling ever. But trust me, you can get over this feeling. You will get pregnant again and you will be successful this time. I know you are feeling like that you will stay in this phase of life forever. Try to divert your mind, do things which make you happy, try to share things with your partner. Spend time with your family and friends. Their support can help you get through this. Stay strong! Much Love!

  9. Hannah.David6 months ago

    Hey, there I am extremely sorry to hear what you have been going through. I am sure it must have been extremely difficult for you. It takes time to recover from such incidents however you shouldn't lose hope. You should try opting for surrogacy and take a break. The process will allow you have genetically linked baby. Once you have a baby in your hands you will have the strength to try naturally as well. As children give a mother the strength to move forward. They are the reason behind the happiness for a lot of parents. If you do opt for it make sure that the process is being done legally. The clinic I have been visiting has been doing the process legally. They even give the child's custody to the parents which really matters. The process is also done extremely efficiently. As they constantly call the surrogates for checkups. They ensure that their diet is perfect and the child remains healthy. All these factors do matter and I did consider them. I hope you are soon able to feel strong and positive just know I am always here for you.

  10. Sloth556 months ago

    I am very sorry. Your loss is a huge one. You must have been so hopeful. But everything got crushed for you. Try to get over it by staying with your family. Go on a vacation. Only after getting over the loss you will be able to start again. Consult your OBGYN once you feel good.

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