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Is it possible to stop feeling this awful?

Hello people. I am finding it hard to cope. I lost my baby. I was 28 weeks pregnant. I don't know how it happened. Maybe it was carelessness on my part. Either way, I feel just so awful. It was going to a girl. I had picked out a name. Had started shopping for her. I don't have the strength to try again. What do I do? How do you get past this? Is it possible to stop feeling this awful? This incompetent?

  1. callisy4 weeks ago

    I am sorry for the loss. And yes you can walk out of that feeling. I have lost a baby before. So I know what it feels like. It is so painful. But you will not get stuck like that fir the rest of your life. You have to move on. Try and get another child. Crying yourself silly will not bring the child back to life. I can remember in my case I met back to my clinic in Bio texcom. They were of much help. I am now coping up well even looking to have my another child. The only thing that matters now is finding strength to start all over again. You can take a break from work so as to relieve the pain. Maybe go on a vacation with your special one so as to forget that you are going through a loss. I believe with time everything is going ton be okay.

  2. Hom4 weeks ago

    I am so sorry for your loss :( I can't imagine the pain you're feeling right now. Prayers and hugs to you.

  3. [ deleted account ]3 weeks ago

    It's ok to be in pain and it's normal to feel like you had something to do with it, but it's very unlikely that anything you did or didn't do had anything to do with it. It can happen to anyone for any number of reasons. It's not your fault, mama. Give yourself time to grieve and try again when you're ready. Hugs.

  4. Mia8511 week ago

    Hi honey. So sorry to hear this. Don't blame yourself. It just wasn't meant to be. I know it probably sounds like hollow words. However, they are true. It is okay to grieve. Let yourself do that. Take care of yourself. Your health should be your primary concern now. Both mental and physical health. Try again when you feel strong enough. Feel free to reach out if you feel like it. Also, talk to your spouse about it. They are probably feeling something similar to what you are feeling. Share your grief with them. That can often make it easier to cope. For both of you. Stay strong.

  5. tinayork6 days ago

    Awww Dear! I am so sorry for the loss you've got. I really know how it feels to have something beautiful so close and then fade away. I just want you to feel strong ATM. Don't be disappointed now! You need it now! There is nothing like your fault in this. You're beautiful in every way! Don't feel like that. I myself have had 2 MCs in my life. I felt like you, but later I realized it was due to my fate. I'm strong now. I also have accepted that I can conceive, not naturally then another way. I have had a HYSTERECTOMY years back after my last MC and now, I can't conceive. But, I didn't give up. I'm having surrogacy next year. I've needed to have. Because I need a complete family. It's all me and my DH need. So, just be strong! Time will pass so fast! Try again...You can also seek other option if you've any issues. I'd really look forward to talking or helping you. Write me back! Stay blessed!

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