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Is it possible to stop feeling this awful?

Hello people. I am finding it hard to cope. I lost my baby. I was 28 weeks pregnant. I don't know how it happened. Maybe it was carelessness on my part. Either way, I feel just so awful. It was going to a girl. I had picked out a name. Had started shopping for her. I don't have the strength to try again. What do I do? How do you get past this? Is it possible to stop feeling this awful? This incompetent?

  1. Bandenna9 months ago

    I am so sorry for what life has done to you.This is so heartbreaking to hear but please do not give up.There are only a certain amount of things our body is made to handle.You really should not blame yourself.I know the guilt just starts to kill from inside.The only way to come out of this dark place is to start a new journey.Trust me I have been through the exact same phase.Take care of yourself sending happy thoughts your way.

  2. Gloriaherb9 months ago

    Hey Nica! I hope you are doing good. I am so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is really the worst thing ever. I have also suffered one so I understand what you are going through. It's really a heart-breaking thing. But don't worry you will get over it. Try to do things that make you happy. Just try to divert your mind from it. Share your feelings with your partner. You really need his love and support at this time. Stressing yourself won't give you anything. Wait for sometime and then try to conceive again. This is not the end for you hon! Focus on your next baby. This baby is still alive in your heart. And he will live inside you forever. Much Love!

  3. TheOptimistic9 months ago

    I am really sorry to hear about your loss. It is really painful to lose the baby at this stage. Despite all this, you have to stay strong. Your personal positive approach is the solution to all your problems. If you feel low and constantly stay stressed then you might face much-aggravated situations. Stress leads to further complications. At this point what you really need is the proper diagnosis. It is very important to find out that why all this happened. Only proper diagnosis and then proper treatment can resolve your issues in the future.

  4. Sara Taylor9 months ago

    It is very heartbreaking. I am sure you must be very low. Why are you feeling awful? It is not your fault. Sometimes things are beyond our control. Just be careful next time. Stop blaming yourself and move on. Take some time then give it a try again. Wish you the best.

  5. Sloth559 months ago

    I am so so sorry. I can not imagine how awful it must be for you. My good thoughts and wishes are always with you. Please, try to be with your family. Staying around them is going to help you a great deal. Do not stay alone in such a difficult time. Give your body and mind time to recover. Time heals everything and you will move on one day. Stay strong my dear.

  6. Sofia19949 months ago

    Sorry to hear about your loss.
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    I have contacted BioTexCom for our surrogacy clinic.
    They let us meet with the other couples who are raising babies via surrogacy method too.
    The couples feedback is so satisfying about clinics that we are now ready to go for surrogacy.
    The clinic has a number of surrogates who are willing to raise our child in their womb.
    The clinic says that they will go through extensive tests methods to clear all the reports of surrogate so that we don't have any problems later on.
    So now me and my husband are looking for a surrogate to raise our child in her womb.
    The clinic says that the surrogate should be good physically and should be perfectly alright.
    We have contacted a clinic for this issue and they are helping us in each and every stage.
    Now i am married again and i persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy method to have a baby of our own. We both have some biological substance left which can make our own child in someone's other womb without having her biological impacts on our child.
    The consultant has given us a detail of this issue in every aspect.
    If someone has experience in this surrogacy please let us know.

  7. Boone9 months ago

    Well I am really sorry dear. You don't have to say this. I can understand what are you feeling. It's been really bad for you. I am really sorry. But you are not saying it completely. Can you please tell how did this happened. What was the exact situation that time. How this happened. I mean to say that what was the type of the accident. Than we might figure out that what happened. Well now I can only say that the life is not ended yet. There are allot of other things that you could do. You'll get pregnant again by some other method. Don't worry. Just get over it now.

  8. Jennifer7489 months ago

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. But it's not the end of the world. You can conceive again. I know it might seem like everything's over. But that's not true. You've your whole life ahead of you. You should try to move on. Try focusing on other things. Give time to your hobbies. Spend quality time with your husband. Just make sure you get over this trauma before conceiving. And don't blame yourself for it. What is meant to happen, happens anyway. So just try to get out of that feeling. I know it is very hard as I lost my baby too. And for a few months I wouldn't even talk to anyone. But I wish I could have dealt it in a better way. So here is my suggestion for you, just try not to think too much about it and I hope you conceive again soon. Bad things happen, that's life. We can't change it. But what we can do is try not let it us affect us in a negative way. Loads of love.

  9. Ada9 months ago

    hey nica!!! It’s so sad to hear that you have lost your baby. listen nica miscarriage usually happens but don’t be the cause of it. if you didn’t take care then it’s your biggest mistake that can put you in great trouble. You know this type of miscarriages can lead you towards infertility. You have hurt your feelings by yourself. Now don’t do anything. Just wait for the right time to have TTC again. Take a break and keep yourself busy for another activity. this may help you!!

  10. rebecca129 months ago

    Hey there! I really feel sorry for you, dear. It's sad to know what life does to people. You don't deserve this, no woman does. Sometimes, life tests us in these situations. We just have to stay strong and be positive. Everything's going to be fine one day. I also had a miscarriage 3 years back, I fell from the stairs. I always used to blame myself for it. But I never lost hope. My husband supported me throughout and I opted for Surrogacy in Ukraine. It was an amazing experience. I have a beautiful daughter today. I wish you become a mother very soon. Good Luck!

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